Listen and expect less

I was asked of this question: Why wouldn't my MAN share his problems with me? Why is he hiding it from me?

To be frank, I believe lately its unfair to say that guys are the ones who do not understand girls. Its rather both sides now.

I remember watching a short clip on scenarios when girls asked their 'men' on what are they thinking. I would agree to that, partially. The other half, I won't not really put it as ego, but rather I would ask this: Gals, are you able to sit down, listen to your man calmly while he whines and complains like you do? And when I say calmly, it would include that you would not stop him in the middle of the whole 'sharing' process and say that he is long winded, or having the thought that he is weak and unable to protect you and all sorts of excuses that one can come up with?

Food for thought.

Thats the reason why more and more guys are not willing to share their problems or even rather find someone else to talk about their problems even if the person would only just sit and listen.

Sad fact of life.

Ups and Downs, Balance?

Its been time since I blogged properly I guess. Especially about reality. Anyway here goes.

Recently my friend and I just discussed of the ups and downs of working life. Which ever part is it balanced? We often wonder where are the wonderful theories "You will get what you want if you work out as hardworking and smart" and "Hardwork pays it all". Things just does not seems like what it's suppose to be when you deliver yourself to the working society, the reality of life.

That's when you start to feel that work does not pay off anymore, you lose motivation, you no longer work as well as you suppose to be when you just started. (You can be in denial but try evaluating yourself. Got me? ^^)

But please do remind yourself that the HUMANs as we are often fall for the simplest sins that any man or women will make (And I don't mean LUST, and I do mean everyone just depending how well can you resist it; Even if a monk does not control well will also slighty fall in). What I meant is the word "ENVY". When the word envy kicks in, slowly one would feel threaten in some other way when it comes to work post related. SO what they do in return for your hardwork? I guess many would have many different type of return so I'm not in the position to list any.

Besides that fact, the other word called "Misunderstanding" also comes into place. Whether you like it or not, misunderstanding often happen. It just depends on how do you reduce the severity as well as handling it. I once heard this and I quote: "Misunderstanding. No matter who started a ruckus over a matter, there is no doubt that it your fault." Weird isn't it, but its true. Its something hard to avoid as we live in a world with many different people with different culture, different believes and etc. To make things a little clear for you guys, a joke can be a real laugh for one but can offend the other. Agree?

I guess it comes back to the point, how much more that we really need to work on in order to get the expected return? From what I said so far may seems endless, but living up your life and often keep in mind of the concept "give and take", never to be in excess, as well as looking things at the brighter side, slowly but surely you'll get the satisfaction you wanted, of course in various ways. You may not see it now, but you'll see it when people starts appreciating you.

Cheers.

Past & Old

I once heard this: "Uncle, stop living and past tense anymore. Telling me past tense would not bring you anything."

in that instance I took my phone and sent this to my FB.

"The old age who reminiscence the past symbolizes the history of which should be remembered as a lesson, and not be treat as the PAST." - Nathaniel, 2011

Learn and absorb.....

Success

What is success?

I guess this a question that many would have heard from any talks. Be it its from a talk show, a motivational talk, or even a talk in marketing companies. But what really is success?

Many said that in order to be successful, I must achieve what I want. For instance, MONEY!! (I believe many heard of this right?) But is it necessary that you obtained the money you need for the rest of your life, can then only bring you to success in life?

I've once heard many talks about success. But there is only a handful that actually caught my ear, and after analyzing them, I came to a stop. I found that many would not tell you further more.

The one i heard about being successful was a man of great ambitions, a man with visions to far and wide that many could not see. he once told me this when I had a chance to meet him.

"To be successful, its not just being able to obtain what you want or wish for, but is to be able to enjoy your life to the extend that you'll never regret, to feel the fulfillment in life you are living in even if you are not able to achieve the material things. To be successful, is to be able to live your life as yourself, to be original, and not by following shadows of whoever it may be. By then you'll understand, what is successful."

Hearing him say so, I understand one thing, that is:

"To be successful, one must not lose one self and never to part ways with the world, learning, absorbing and applying to yourself; wise up and appreciate what's left of yourself, enrich it and prosper."

Food for thought

The feeling of envious might come when you see that people owns something that you want, thinking that people are luckier. Please do remember, whatever that you see may not be what you assume you see. Life is unfair people say, but it has been in it ways. Utilize what you have and not wish what you don't.

These are the sentences that I've just updated on my fb status. I tend to always remind myself these, but often we do see the same on others and they would whatever it takes to just do to achieve what they dream of. In the end? Suffering, not getting respect from others, complaining why others treat him/her and worst, parents who don't even want to believe their child anymore because of money. Funny? I beg to differ.

Things these days are really getting out of hand. Saying so, I know of a few person who even thinks that their parents should be giving them pocket money or sponsor them to buy a thing or go anywhere. The best part is, each parent should give and not as parents as one. Now how would you feel as a parent? Sad isn't it?

I'll give another example. People tend to always think that they do not have enough, their family aren't rich enough to provide them anything that other people have. And at last what they do? Imagine a kid, sitting down, whining like kid for not getting what their parents would give or buy. The worst, argue with parents and even fight with them or even rob their own parent.

Sadly these things often happen. Sadly, we humans are born with a feeling called envious. Though its not bad to be envious towards people, use it in a right way may fuel someone to work for a better future. The sad thing is, its often use the other way around.

I once watched videos of a man named Nick Vujicic. Now he is a great inspiration. You guys should watch it too. Great speech, great guy. I'll tell you why he is awesome. Look at the picture below.



I guess that picture can speak of everything huh? He can be most inspiring, most motivating speaker around. And who says you can't take yourself as an example? haha...

Anyway, thats all for now. Remember, be grateful with what you have now. Multiply, diversify, monopolize yourself and not to rely or cheat on others to achieve your dreams. ^^

the big day for me.... but....

Today was suppose to be a big day for me... supposedly... My convocation I mean... I was happy, scared, nervous, and full of hope.

After the whole ceremony, well you can guess, the photo sessions and etc... I can't blame my parents for unable to take pictures for me as they already done their best to take good pictures of me in my attire...probably i'm just expecting too much... hoping to take more pics of myself for memories since I'm not really the type of person who fond of taking pictures of myself. Somehow I did not achieve what I wanted... not much pictures for myself to keep... Was hoping to print one out...1 dream crushed.

After a while of all the havoc-ness of walking about trying to make my mark in other's photo, hoping to be tagged more and more in Facebook, but still.... looks like I wasn't manage to do so...mission failed.

I thought of going out with friends today but it seems I feel so far from everyone... Its either i'm blocked myself out or I just failed to mix in with the others and to notice their plans because I wasn't able to locate my usual bunch. With my parents out thinking I should be having fun by then, I actually went out around alone... feeling blank, alone in a dark empty space... looks like I'm turning Lygo-kenophobia (fear of dark and empty spaces)... heart... broken.....

However hope is all not lost... good thing my sis was still able to come... and somehow got hold of my mom in KLCC and we just walked around the mall. Well, thats the end of my 'BIG' day....

Add-on to the previous post

As what the title states, this is a add-on.

I forgot to say that whenever there is a problem in a relationship, no one should be blamed. Do you know why? Everyone is at fault. If not, it would not be called as a relationship anymore. Think about it, what is the true definition of the word relationship?

This is a common problem among couples these days, things aren't working out, one cheated the other, regardless its the male or female's fault it seems, both has made the error. There is such theory that goes "cause and effect". There must be a cause for things that happened. And that is what happening to most people out there, and that depends on how much they understand about this. But of course emotions got over what is rational, thus.... I guess you guys know what happen next right?

Sounds impossible and naive? Think about it. I've came to realise this, do you?

So next time you got yourself in such heap of a trouble, think before you act.

So long for now^^